Monday, February 7, 2011

Something To Ponder On...

Hokay...remember how I had asked what you see when you look into the had told me about how you see confidence, confusion, sometimes fear, love, gratitude....a motley of emotions, every one of them meaning a real big deal to all of us. I enjoyed reading all the answers so much so that I thought why not I ask another one this week...and so here's the one for this week...

Since we are in February, the Month of Love, let's talk about...well, what else, Love....I read a post here about whether selfless act is true thing and it got me thinking....and my question you believe in Selfless Love? And if you do, who do you think would be capable of it?

I thought a bit about it myself and I personally believe that all of us are capable of it...but if I had to give a one word answer it would "Yes". And for the second question, my mind right now comes up with "God, Mothers and Dads (There, the list's amended) and Pets."... 

You are welcome to add to the list, and tell me what you think...

I hope all of you have had an amazing weekend.




  1. I can only speak for myself but you need to add Dad to the list, I would give my life for my girls without a thought.

  2. That is an interesting one Cat and of course my answer is yes and my answer to the second part would my sister Linda, yes the same name as my wife. When my mother became very ill and needed 24/7 attention it was my youngest sister that moved in with her without a question & took a leave of absence from her job. They eventually had her working out of the home. My other sister and I helped whenever we could. She died in 2002. Now that my Aunt Katie (102) is getting more fragile she is also needing 24/7 attention while living alone. Linda is again giving up weekends when regular help is not there to make sure all is as it should be for her care. It's just her nature to be there for anyone in my family, no questions, nothing expected in return. She is the best sister a guy could ever have.

  3. I always thought selfless acts are either born out of love for the near and dear ones or to satisfy one's own sense of superiority via philanthropy.

    I was proven wrong last week. I met this lady who hosted us in a city thousands of miles away. She was my husbands friend's wife. Serene, calm, simple and very resourceful. I have no idea how and why but she did for us which I wouldn't have done even for my close friends. In the end she never expected anything back. it got me thinking...why was she being so nice. What could be the reason. By the time it was time for us to leave I realised, there was no hidden reason. She was a good person and that's all there was to it.

    Xenophobia holds us back from being selfless...but I guess there still are people who belong to that class.

  4. I would give my life for my husband and my kids. I have NO doubt. I don't know if that is selfless - but anyone who knows me knows that they are the most important thing to THE world to me - and if it means I have to sacrifice to have them here then so be it.

    They make my world - and my world wouldn't be without them.

    A lot of people would argue that I shouldn't define myself by those that surround me. Well, I have a problem with that - we are human and thus the interaction is part of our make up - if we don't become better by surrounding ourselves with love, support, friendship - then what exactly IS the point of even being alive?

  5. I would say definitely yes. I think everyone I have ever met is capable of it and has probably done it from time to time. It is not something you see all the time but it happens.

  6. really great thoughts. i would have to answer yes as well.

    thanks for stopping by my blog and leaving such a sweet comment. i typically reply to all comments via email and still follow people back to their blogs to leave a little comment love back.

    you don't have your email enabled. so sorry to leave it all here. but if you want your blogging experience to get even better shoot me an email and i will help you enable your email address.

  7. I'm pretty sure I am. I mean that's the basis of marriage, isn't it?

  8. Selfless love. I definitely agree with the three on your list. It's such a good list that I'm having a hard time coming up with anything to add to it.

  9. yes i agree with your list. GOD offers unconditional love and our Mothers too, pets even.

    i'm just not sure if i'm capable of selfless love or maybe that's all the kind of love of giving. but why do i have this selfish need to be loved back in return? so much for being human. if i were a a wife, it would crush my heart that my husband refuse to reciprocate my love. i guess, if i become a Mother, i'd finally discern the true meaning of selfless love.

  10. First of all, I can't believe I wasn't following your blog before. You have left so many great comments on my posts, and I thought for sure I had started following you. My terrible (TERRIBLE) mistake. I have lots of reading to do!

    As for this idea of selfless love. It's an interesting concept, but I don't think that it is entirely possible. Everyone would want to believe that they could be so humble to love something/one just to love, but often times you cannot feel love unless something directly affects you. When you have that direct feeling, then you feel love. And you may keep loving in hopes of having that feeling again.

    For instance, you listed a mother as someone who you would feel selfless love for. My mother and I are very close, and I will always love her, no matter what happens, or if she changes completely. But I will love her for who she has been, and for the love she has given me in the past. The times she made me feel proud of myself or strong is enough to make me love her for a life time. If you have never met someone (even if they are someone you can love), then you can't create a selfless love.

    That was a bit of a rant.

  11. @Dad: sorry for overlooking that....will amend the list with immediate effect...

    @Odie: Your aunt sounds like an amazing person.

    @Raindrop: I agree...we live in a world where we are skeptical about everything around us...

    @SkippyMom: I agree with you...what's the point of being human if you are going to isolate yourself from others..

    @Happy Frog: I agree...

    @Mamarazzi: Thanks for coming by....will definitely shoot out that email soon...:)

    @Copyboy: Not sure...I thought it was Understanding that was the basis...

    @Kayla: Aww....thanks.

    @Maria: I wonder if I would ever be capable of it too....maybe, time will tell...

    @Trish: Hey there...You can rant all you want...I hear you....:)

  12. Thanks for the visit and the sweet words! And yes, I'd agree that that it's possible and I agree with your examples, moms and God. But I don't know if it's possible with romantic love. I love the crap out of my husband... when he's being good. Bring on the bad, though, and I'm looking for something more fun pretty quickly.

  13. I believe selfless love exists but only when the need for it is present because everyone wants to receive love in return.

    You can reap the benefits of love as the giver or the receiver, but only the giver is able to feel the pain of love, so yes, selfless love exists but only when it's needed.

  14. Nothing to add really, except that I believe that kids and grandkids may come first (especially when the parents are not around anymore...).

  15. @FreeFlying: :D

    @Nari: I agree that giver feels the pain....true!

    @Peter: Got to agree with that....!


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